We’ve all experienced it in one way or another. We’ve seen it on our Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter feeds. We all have that one (or maybe more) friend who is always posting about their relationship on social media and it can get really annoying. It seems like they always feel the impulsive need to post about every single date that they’re on with their significant other. We already have that friend who is constantly posting about what they did in the gym on that day. We have that friend who is always talking about how sad and miserable or how happy and fulfilling their life is. They’re pretty annoying. But the annoyance is only immensely intensified whenever a person is constantly posting about their relationship. It’s as if they’re totally insecure about the state of their relationship to the point wherein they feel like they have to post about it all the time to make sure that it’s real. Social media usage is a privilege and people have really got to know their boundaries.
You’ve seen these types of posts. You’ve seen them over and over again on your feeds. These are the pictures of them just “holding hands” while walking down the street or staring longingly at each other’s eyes while having a cup of coffee. On top of these pictures and posts being totally cheesy, it makes it even more annoying to know that these pictures are staged. They make it seem like they’re candid and stolen, but in reality, you know that they put so much time and effort into perfecting their poses to make these pictures worthy of social media. It’s so extra and it’s so annoying to think about. And then there are the posts that are practically love letters. Here’s an idea: if you want to write a love letter to your partner, why don’t you go ahead and actually write a real love letter? There’s no need for you to post your supposedly intimate and original love letter on social media for all the world to see. It’s so obvious that you’re just doing it for the spectacle and not the actual emotional meaning behind it. You are more interested in the likes and reactions than you are about actually getting a reaction out of your partner and it’s sad. What makes it even more frustrating is when those love letters are terribly written – when a lot of the lines are practically stolen from the works of Shakespeare and Wilde. If you’re going to showcase your heart’s desires on your social media feed, at least be original about it. Don’t steal the words of other people when doing so. It’s just sad and downright pathetic.
But to be respectful and friendly, we go ahead and we comment and like on these posts. We don’t want to tarnish our friendships with these people and so we go ahead and feed their egos with our likes. We tell them that we’re happy for them even though deep down inside, it’s really annoying us and if only we could just hide their posts from our feed without making them feel suspicious. They expect our likes and our support and so we have to play the game if we want to preserve the friendship. It’s sad, but that’s just how the modern age of social media has influenced how we go about relationships these days.
However, thanks to the wonders of science, we are now granted a whole new perspective that perfectly justifies how we feel about the over-saturation of these cheesy posts and annoying couples pictures. Science has finally given us an excuse to be pissed off by these posts and we don’t have to feel bad about feeling this way about our friends who are constantly posting about their relationships on social media. A study conducted by Brunei University in London shows that the people who are always posting about their relationship milestones and happenings on social media are just downright self-obsessed and unhealthily narcissistic. It has also been suggested that these people are very insecure and that they have confidence issues. They post a lot on social media because it’s a way for them to validate themselves and to vaidate the worth of their relationship by garnering likes and engagements from their friends.
To quote Dr. Tara Marshal, she says that “Although our results suggest that narcissists’ bragging pays off because they receive more likes and comments to their status updates, it could be that their Facebook friends politely offer support while secretly disliking such egotistical displays.”
So there. You now have inexplicable proof backed up by science that your annoyances are completely valid and you don’t have to feel bad about thinking that these posts are irritating to find on your social media feed.